Sometimes we plan our changes in life and sometimes we don’t…like unexpectedly losing your job. This happened, recently, to my partner. While he’s dealing with the upheaval of emotions, fairly well, he has his ‘panic’ moments. Thankfully, he has me. *wink*
Most of us have been there at some point in our lives. It’s shocking if we’re not expecting it and it plays with our deepest insecurities as humans; the dreaded: “I’m not good enough.” or “I’ve failed”. Typically, neither are true but because something valuable has been taken away from us, we feel angry, sad, frightened and a little lost as to what the next steps might be. Often depression can set in and we have to be mindful of this.
I can tell you that I’ve lost my job (s) 7 times in my life and I struggled every time it happened. That being said, I always ended up, eventually, somewhere better than where I was. The process, in-between, was hellish but I learned a LOT about who I was and who I was becoming.
The last time this happened to me, I was quite prepared emotionally, once I got past the initial shock and anger. I still felt sadness and resentment for a few days, but once I sat myself down and realized it was really for the better, I was okay. It wasn’t long before I found something a whole lot better and I’m grateful at what I learned from the experience.
What I learned was that a) I didn’t belong there any longer and if I wasn’t going to leave on my own steam, LIFE was going to kick my arse out of there. b) Once I was gone, I felt a HUGE relief that I didn’t have to deal with the toxic environment, any longer. I was FREE.
If this has happened to you, lately, stand in front of the mirror and say this to the face looking back:
YOU are worthy. It doesn’t matter what others think or don’t think of you. YOU know who you are in this world and that is all that really counts.
YOU are going to be OKAY. Take some quiet time and grieve. It’s normal and human. You’ve lost something and it was completely beyond your control to do anything about it.
Take stock of what you DO have. Get your ducks in a row and figure out employment insurance benefits, how you’re going to make due with less and get emotional support from friends, family, etc.
When you’re ready, put a PLAN into place and start visualizing your dream job. Take notes, draw pictures. Do whatever it takes to spark the law of abundance/attraction and pay attention to your intuition.
Execute the plan and remember that a seed doesn’t grow into a garden in one day. This will take time so be a little patient.
Be KIND to yourself and take a day or so to process what just happened. Remember this happens to nearly everyone so you’re not alone.
KNOW that there is a reason why this did happen and it’s that something better for your soul is in the works. TRUST that you’ll find it.
Make a list of the things you’ve learned while you were at this job. What are you grateful for? What would you change if you could go back and do things differently?
Design what you want your life to look like. See it in your mind; visualization is a most powerful tool and I can share some of mine with you so feel free to reach out to me.
Remember, if you didn’t do anything wrong intentionally, it’s not about you. It’s typically a business decision and if there was a personality conflict, I promise you weren’t happy there, anyway, and this makes it about THEM.
I’ve never met a person who was let go/laid off/fired with JUST cause. As in, they stole from the company or did something highly unethical or against the law. I think those people are few and far between.
Reach out to a Counsellor (career or otherwise) and/or a Life Coach to get a little help with those next steps.
And remember, you’re awesome, you’re deserving, your Soul knows what it’s doing and it has plans for you!